How to chill the f out when they’re not texting back

 (aside from stalking their social media and telling yourself you’re never talking to them again)

We've all been there. You see someone you like, they say they like you, sparks begin to fly, and then … nothing. You don't hear from them. Days turn into weeks and they stop answering your texts. The dread-induced butterflies that once danced around in your chest suddenly have been replaced with a slight feeling of nausea. You desperately check Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and their favorite bars/restaurants on a weekly basis until … you find a match on Tinder or Hinge who ends up breaking your heart again by ghosting you.

It can be tough when someone you care about doesn't respond to your text message. It's natural to feel anxious and fearful in those moments because you care about them, and you want to know that they're okay. However, it's important to find healthy ways to deal with those emotions instead of stalking their social media or convincing yourself that you'll never talk to them again.

Here are ten ways to chill out when they're not texting back:

Validate Your Emotions:

It’s okay to feel anxious and afraid. Those emotions are there to protect you from getting hurt, and it’s important to acknowledge and validate them. And if they don’t text back right away (or at all), you don’t have to beat yourself up over it or try to rationalize why they aren’t texting back. Breathe deeply if it feels safe, and allow yourself to be as upset as you need to be over the situation.

Show Yourself Compassion:

In the moment, it can be hard to shift from feeling anxious to feeling relaxed. But if your friend were feeling nervous or anxious, what would you do to help them? Show yourself the same kindness and compassion. Bring in a supportive other if you’re finding it challenging to engage in this practice on your own.

Talk it Out:

Call a friend who understands and can empathize with what you're going through. Talking it out can help you pass the time and feel supported.

Move Your Body:

Exercise releases endorphins and can help you feel more relaxed and at ease. If exercise isn't your thing, try dancing or moving your body in ways that feel good.

Distract Yourself:

Watch your favorite show, read a book, listen to a podcast, or learn something new. Do the things that make you happy and set your soul on fire.

Write it Out:

Writing down your emotions can help you release them. Let yourself feel and write whatever comes up for you, without filtering or making sense of it.

Spend Time in Nature:

Being in nature and mindful of your surroundings can be incredibly grounding. When your mind wanders, redirect it back to your senses.

Practice Diaphragmatic Breathing:

Tuning into your breath can help activate your parasympathetic nervous system, triggering your rest and recover response. It can help show your nervous system that it's safe to relax.

Indulge in Self-Care:

Take a bubble bath, get a massage, or do something that helps you relax and detox built-up energy that no longer serves you.

Practice Simple Self-Care:

Eat balanced meals, drink enough water, and practice basic hygiene. Taking care of yourself in simple ways can help you feel more grounded and centered.

Try one (or a handful) of these ten tips when you’re anxiously awaiting a reply, and let us know if they help you stay calm and centered !

Remember, it's always okay to feel hurt and disappointed if things don't work out. At the end of the day, you have yourself, and that's something to be grateful for.